The Concise Guide to Great Sex: Part 1 - Foreplay


Foreplay in three words?

Take. Your. Time.

If intercourse is the juicy piece of steak, foreplay is the marinade that brings the meal to exquisite perfection.

Without it?

Sure, you'll be able to finish your meal, fill your belly, and go to bed having beaten back your hunger for another day.

Albeit, you'll notice something was missing.

The flavoring that makes you even more excited for another meal, makes you ask your friend for the recipe, and makes it that much tastier as you choke it down, wasn't there.

Hell, you'll probably want another steak the following morning after a very proper 'marinading,' if you know what I mean.

If you want to be the best lover you can be--while also having the best time for yourself possible--yummy foreplay is a crucial element to add to your lovemaking arsenal.

The Essential Ingredients of Enticing Foreplay:

1. Time

What's the rush? You're going to get yours, so there's no need to begin planting your seed before you've plowed the field.

To some, foreplay is viewed as a simple speed bump that just needs to be gently (or roughly) driven over as fast as possible to get back onto the road of adventure.

Don't let this be you.

Foreplay is apart of the entire sexual experience. 

Erecting the penis and lubricating the vagina are both the physical manifestations of the minimal amount of needed foreplay, however, that does not mean it is enough for the optimal amount of foreplay.

To keep it simple, anywhere from 5-15 minutes of slow, sensual foreplay is ideal. Kissing, licking, slowly removing clothes, and teasing are recommended.

Yet, bear in mind, foreplay is an aspect of everyday life, and occurs between every sexual encounter with your partner.

Flirty texts during the day. A caress on their lower back as you leave a restaurant.

You get the idea.

While prolonging the actual sexual encounter makes for a more satisfying roll in the hay, foreplay goes beyond those five to fifteen--or more ;)--minutes.

2. Emotions


The entire purpose of foreplay is to get both you and your partner thoroughly aroused prior to intercourse.

This is obvious, however, some people overthink it.

Do what arouses your partner.

Remember, there are different strokes for different folks.

So be sure to communicate, both verbally and non-verbally, to ensure both of you get what you need.

3. Visuals

What's sexier than seeing your partner naked?

I can't think of one, but I'd say the moment right before you see them naked is a close runner up.

This doesn't need much explaining.

Wear a classy suit or dress prior to dinner or a night out.

Try out some lingerie.

Surprise your lover with a skimpy bikini or a slick banana hammock.

Get tan.

Tone up.

Try a new hairstyle.

Roleplay as a wizard and goblin.

Alladin and Jasmine.

Need I say more?

4. Hygiene

I think we all love those butterflies we get when going down on our partner and we hear their moans of pleasure.

Who doesn't like to be the source of the bliss their lover is experiencing?

On that note--keep it blissful.

Wash after workouts, trim that hair (not for everyone), and polish your nob.

5. Touch

Foreplay Kissing



And more kissing.

And licking.

And teasing.



That is all.

Pour Conclure

Don't speed through until intercourse is achieved.

Take five-fifteen minutes to maximize the sexiness and impending pleasure.

Foreplay throughout the day.

And life.

Stay cleanly, and remember that foreplay is an emotional, physical, visual, AND mental experience.

It's more than a 'mere annoyance' that exists solely to stop you from immediately ramming your genitals into each other.

Do it. Enjoy it.

If you take this advice into consideration, don't be surprised when you're soon considered your partner's 'best lover they've ever had.'

To Be Continued in Part 2...

Read the next installment in this series here: Part 2


Be sure to check out our toys and recommendations page to enhance the sexiness.

Stay tuned for more.


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